In my last post about Disney World I ended with the police arriving at my door. Despite my innocence I made several mistakes when they arrived. First being not contacting my attorney and getting advice on how to handle the situation. You always have the right to counsel. The second major mistake I made was allowing them in the house. This is just an excuse to perform at an impromptu search of your residence and ask questions in attempt to get something on you. Under no circumstances should you allow any law enforcement officer or CPS caseworker to enter your home without written authorization.
After allowing them in my home and the officers alluding to child abuse allegations without any real detail they followed me upstairs while I got dressed.The officers continued to ask me questions about the house and whether or not I had weapons in the house. Then the conversation turned to a personal nature. The officer made two statements that were clearly bias in nature. The officer said he noticed I have an accent. Despite originally being from the south I don't have much of an accent at all. Then the officer proceeded to state that I wasn't from around there!
Ok at this point all kinds of alarms should have been going off in my head! This was a clear indication I was being targeted, but I just ignored it. When it was time to head down to the police station for questioning things got even weirder. I was going to drive down to the station but the officers insisted I had to ride in the back of the squad car. I'm pretty sure this was some violation of my civil rights. After all, I wasn't under arrest and was supposedly just being questioned. The police officers true intentions here will come to light later on.
During all of this I remained calm and cooperated fully with the authorities. I would continue to do so through the interview and in future encounters. I recommend that anyone confronted by the police should always remain calm, be polite, and cooperate fully. Even though you may feel unjustly targeted cooperating with the authorities might just save your life. Police are armed and they will not hesitate to use deadly force. They will be walking the streets while your lying six feet under.
After arriving at the police station we were joined by a CPS caseworker. The caseworker informed me that I was accused of sexual abusing my daughter and using excessive corporal punishment with both children. I was initially shocked and couldn't believe someone would accuse me of such a thing. Then as I processed it I asked myself did I think my daughter had been abused by someone else? As sometimes abuse victims misidentify their abuser. The answer was absolutely not. I was 100% sure my daughter hadn't been abused by anyone. This meant only one possibility that someone was fabricating the allegations against me.
I began to focus on who made the allegations. I told the officer and caseworker I didn't abuse my daughter and proceeded to discuss the spanking. I had actually spanked the kids and wanted to make it clear to the caseworker and officer that it was never excessive. In essence I told them what I had done and what I hadn't. I went on to discuss my parenting philosophy as it related to corporal punishment and how ineffective I found it. Then they mentioned the yeast infections that my daughter previously had, and at that point I knew this had to be my ex-wife or someone on her behalf. My ex-wife had mentioned the yeast infections and spanking during our divorce proceedings which the ink was barely dry on.
I informed the investigators that this was all my ex-wife's doing. I alluded to pieces evidence they could obtain that would point to her. Such as her testimony from our divorce where she brings up the yeast infections and spanking. I also discussed our custody agreement in which I could file for a modification because I now had a change of circumstance. I could possibly get more time with children and and a reduction in child support. Two things she certainly didn't want to happen. I also alluded to her manipulation of the children and anytime she wants to initiate something in court she will create problems that don't exist. The only response the officer could give was that I was stretching to say my ex-wife was involved. Thats absolutely ridiculous statement when he is fully aware that it was my ex-wife whom called the person who made the report.
The caseworker then informed me that my daughter would see a pediatrician who specializes in abuse. The purpose of this was for a medical exam but to also interview my daughter to see if her story changed any. The caseworker also wanted me to sign a stay-away agreement. I was very reluctant to do so. I was given an ultimatum to either sign it or go to court. So I decided to cooperate as I felt this would be over in a couple of days and made it clear to the caseworker that I wanted to revisit it the following Monday.
There are number of items for consideration that authorities ignored. First of all, there are number of causes for yeast infections that include antibiotics, sugar, bubble baths, and improper wiping. All of these are more likely causes than sexual abuse. Secondly, the investigators didn't fact check anything. They had the wrong date for the yeast infection. The last yeast infection actually occurred well over a year before this. Why would you bring up the spanking? If your concern was sexual abuse why would someone mention the spanking. Because it's consistent with someone out to get sole custody and bringing up anything they can to achieve their goal. Finally, I had just returned from a trip to disney world. They completely ignored how this would have affected my ex-wife and never bothered to interview any of my family members.
